Dr Rajeev Gupta

Decide What You Will Not Put Up With

When two people decide to get into a relationship, there are several adjustments that will often be made and most of these adjustments are fairly easy to accommodate and live with.
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However when it comes to making a complete change, this expectancy can be rather unrealistic as some things or habits are not easy to change no matter what the circumstances are.

When it comes to elements such as values, it would be very hard indeed to get the person to change overnight or even at all.

Initially it may not be a good idea to impose on the other party all the things that are acceptable and not acceptable for the individual.

However in the long run, this is probably a very good idea as it will save a lot of time and perhaps even some heartache, if both parties find that they are unable or unwilling to change certain things about themselves.

If this is understood and accepted early on within the new relationship, then both parties will be able to move on to a stronger and more focused level.

Therefore in the interest of keeping sane within a relationship, both parties should be forthcoming with what they are willing to put up with and what they are not willing to compromise on.

This level of honesty will certainly help both parties to understand each other better and to decide if there is any future in pursuing this partnership.

It is very important to note, that going into a relationship with the intention of trying to change the other party would be an uphill battle and almost always detrimental to the relationship. Thus the need to decide and accept or leave the relationship before it gets too difficult to do so.

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