Most relationships come with their own set of problems and when children are added to the equation, these problems may seem small and insignificant by comparison.
Having children come with a whole set of new and something overwhelming complications and problems, and understanding that these problems would need to be dealt with in a calm and rational manner would be the first priority of any discussion on the matter.
Most couples fail to consider the issue of values that they would like to see their children eventually adopt, and this could eventually be an area of contention and strain for the couple.
Part of imparting a good value system upon the kids would require the cooperation of both parents in both the style to be adopted and content of the values intended to be imparted.
This should be discussed for the very onset of the decision to have children as failing to do so would certainly have dire consequences that would negatively impact the couple’s relationship on every level.
Failing to come up with a workable “blue print” plan for values to be imparted would either leave the children without good values or would be a constant fight between the parents on what values should be imparted.
Besides actually discussing and agreeing on a set of values that both parties would be happy to see their children eventually adapt, the couple should also discuss how to go about teaching the children these chosen values.
The methods to be used is also something very important that the couple should be able to agree upon as this could potentially also be an area of contention and stress for both parties if the method that are chosen are not agreeable to both.